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Break Up - Dealing With Loneliness During the Holidays

You have just broken up with your "one important"? Or maybe s (he) has received an "insignificant", but the person who so used to spending a lot of time together. Or are you a single who hates to be long and the holiday season seem like a disaster coming? There are so many people who simply do not bear any holidays because they have no one to accompany them. People think it's humiliating to be alone during Christmas, New Year, Valentine's Day, their birthday or any other party. They begin to feel sad and depressed at the moment other people start their preparations for happy holidays. If you belong to this group (although he would never admit it to yourself) is good to hear how you feel now.However, there are bad news and good news. The bad news is - while feeling bad for any situation, others are attracted to bad situations. The good news is - there's lots of good news.1. Remember, you are not alone. Many people around the world feel the same way. How do I know? I receive thousands of letters asking me how to deal with the holidays lonely ... I have done extensive research ... So, I spent some days with me while watching a lot of people who attended the same.2. You feel bad because no one knows the real reasons why it happens. Do not worry, I'll give you a clear explanation.3. You will find a way to turn around the most incredible moments in more solitary, but, if not at least pretty good time. What we need is the desire to feel good and enjoy yourself.The real reason to feel bad.1. The bad feeling of being alone, it is not just be himself. It is felt that "are not good enough to get a quality company to share the best moments of the year with" 2. Being alone limits the possible activities in your holiday mind.3. Being alone on holiday in contradiction with some common beliefs.4 society. Being alone is not "what your mom and dad (uncle, best friend, teacher, etc.) would like for you. The feeling that if someone knows, would be disappointed. Therefore, subconsciously you think that you are the most disappointer.5 great. Loneliness is equal to "not be necessary." How to turn "the real reasons to feel badly" in "the real reasons of Feeling Good" .1. Please understand that it is totally your choice of what to think to be. only There are many other choices, for example: 1.) just because I'm a boring, ugly and losing people escape me.o2) just because I know that life is complex and, sometimes, the circumstances are not highly desirable for me. I understand that my current situation in all aspects of life is the result of my previous thoughts and actions. Yes, today I am here alone, but I know that I am a great person, preferring to spend time with him / you then end up being with someone just to be with.Now you can make a list and write down all the possible choices. After being written, think about them and pick one. This would be the real reason. If you chose the wrong reason and think that this is entirely true in your case, then play a "confidence game." Writing a good reason and accept it's true One overview.2. Do not limit your activities to be alone. You can do exactly the same as other people , who have boyfriends / girlfriends, family or close friends. Depending on your budget you can shop, eat out, take a vacation, going to the movies or play. What would you do with "the imaginary love of your life" ? Go 'and do it yourself. "But this is not funny", you think. not think that way. The ability to enjoy being alone is a sign of self completeness.Let me tell you something. About 10 years ago, I was terrified on the coming Valentine's Day. I did not know what to do and did not want to be home ... I called my mom and she suggested we go shopping. I was literally stunned by what I saw at the mall. There were so many people were in a hurry and, of course, were not just "kill" that day by themselves.Life is short and beautiful and if the temporary absence of enterprise makes life miserable to think twice about your attitude .3. I personally feel that the company considers as a "great pressure". All of us have been taught that we must be "at least two groups" for "society marked as important days of the year" day. I can think of words like "you are 30 years old and still unmarried." Many parents say that because they believe it is better to "look good in relatives or neighbors of the eyes the marriage" to be happy.Do you accept the fact that to be happy the work that you must find the right job? Yes Do you believe that to be happy in a relationship is finding the right person? Yes So please accept the fact that to be a happy holiday company you have to find the right company. Today is has this company. looks like a reason to be unhappy? Or maybe it's just a temporary little 'not preventable Cons Are you happy? J4. If you feel that you are a "disappointer" even in your eyes, then re-read # 3 Believe me, they are not. There are thousands and thousands of people who feel exactly the same way. Sit for a moment and think that makes you feel good. What do you like? do you practice? Then make a reservation at your favorite restaurant. Are you afraid to look at groups of people that will make you unhappy? Do not worry. Many of these people only dream of sitting alone without the company is forced to be with.Personally may I suggest you go somewhere. If Thurs not absolutely feel comfortable being yourself, go online and do research. There are tons of events you can attend to their own feeling comfortable.5. If you believe that "nobody needs you," remember, it's not true. It 's just a sign of low self-esteem and takes a reading and an improvement on this topic. If you can not be happy without people means that you need "validation of someone else." Then you should re-think that the connection between the presence of other people and your inner state. [EXTRACT] You have just broken up with your "a significant" or maybe s (he) was an "insignificant", but the person that you were so used to spending a lot of time with use. Or to be one, that seem to come back and the Christmas period as a hate big catastrophe? There are so many people who simply do not bear any holiday, because they have no one to accompany them. People think it is humiliating to do, alone at Christmas, New Year, Valentine's Day, her birthday or any other party. You begin to feel sad and depressed at the time to start than other people happy holidays prepared. If this group ( even if one admits that it would be) is good for the way you feel now.However that there is bad news and good news. The bad news is - despite feeling ill are attracted to each situation, the other negative situations . The good news is - there are many good news.1. Remember, you are not alone. Many people around the world feel the same way. How do I know? I receive thousands of letters asking me how to deal with the holidays lonely I have done extensive research ... ... Also, I spent a few days alone, while a lot of people who made same.2. You feel bad because no one knows the real reasons why it happened. Do not worry, you give a clear explanation.3. You will find a way to turn the most solitary moments, if not the most incredible, but the time is at least good enough. What you need is a desire, feel good and enjoy yourself.The real reason to feel bad.1. The bad feeling of being alone is not alone. It is the feeling that "you're not good enough to get a quality company, the best times of year to share with." According As well as the types of activities on your vacation mind.3 limits. Alone at the holidays in contrast to some common beliefs.4 society. He himself is not "what your mom and dad (uncle, best friend, teacher, etc.) that you want. He feels that if anyone knows if they've been disappointed. Therefore, we subconsciously know that you are bigger disappointer.5. only "should not be used" immediately. How to turn "The real causes of distress" in "the real reasons of Feeling Good" .1. Please understand that it is entirely the choice of what to think of being alone there are many other ways. For example: 1) only because they are a boring, ugly losers and people run away from mir.OR2) just because I know that life. circumstances is complex and sometimes are not very desirable for me to know. I understand that my current situation is in all aspects of life, the result of my previous thoughts and actions. Yes, today I am here alone, but I know that I have a very good person who prefer to spend valuable time he / she is then submitted, to be with someone, only to with.Now you can make a list and write all his'm decisions possible. After writing about her to think and choose. This is the real reason for her would be. If you have made the surface of the bath and think that this is true, completely in your case, then play a "confidence game". writing a good reason to believe, and A overview.2 is true. not your business to be alone. you can do exactly the same thing as other people, friends / friends, family or friends near you. Depending on your budget you can go shopping, go eat, go on vacation, go watch movies or play games. What do you want with the "imaginary love of your life" to do? Vai and DIY. "But this is not funny", you think. Do not think so. The ability to have fun is a sign of self completeness.Let me tell you something. About 10 years ago, I was scared of the upcoming Valentine's Day. I did not know what to do and did not want to be home ... I called my mother and suggested we go shopping. I was literally surprised at what I saw at the mall. There were so many people who were obviously in a hurry and were just "kill" from that day themselves.Life is short and sweet, and when the temporary absence of society makes life miserable to think twice, your attitude. 3. Personally I believe that the company considers as a "strong pressure". We all learned that we are "groups of at least two" for the day "as the company marked important days of the year" should be. It reminds me of saying things like "six to 30 years old and not married yet." Many parents say, because they think it best, "good relatives or neighbors to look at the eyes to get married", as that is happy.Do accept the fact that, happy at work you have to find the right job, yes'. Do you think that being in a relationship you have to find the right person happy? Yes So please accept the fact that to be happy about your company holiday to find the right company. Today, you're not on this company. Does it look like a semblance of reason to be unhappy? Or maybe it's just a little 'temporary disadvantage, does not prevent that, you'll be happy with yourself? J4. If you feel that you are a "disappointer" in your eye, then read # 3 again Believe me, they are not. There are thousands and thousands of people who feel exactly the same way. Sit down for a second that this would be a good feeling. What do you like? Do you like the place, then you make a reservation at your favorite restaurant. you're afraid to look at groups of people to be unhappy? Do not worry. Many of these people can only dream of sitting alone, without the company may be forced. Personally I would suggest you go somewhere. If you do not feel quite like yourself, go online and do research. There are tons of events you can participate, feel comfortable.5. If you believe that "nobody needs you" remember, it's not true. It 's just a sign of low self-esteem and requires reading and improve. If you can not, without the means happy people, who "need validation from anyone else." Then you should think that the link between other people and the presence of your inner state.

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